Coping with dating a married man
Even though I didn’t know his wife at all, I should have been driven harder by the fact that she’s a fellow woman who deserves better. Your character and who you are matters, and when you do things that are crappy, it reflects poorly on your character. Regardless of what he says (she didn’t pay attention to him, all they did was fight, there was no sex), she didn’t deserve to be cheated on. If he was unhappy at home, he needed to man up and say so rather than betraying her.Now that I’m much older and have spent several years acting more like a mature adult and less like a self-centered jerk, I understand this and make my decisions much more judiciously. At the time, I didn’t give a single damn, but now that I look back on it, I can’t believe what a tool I was. Divorce is easy enough to secure if it was really that bad. I’m worth more than a guy who already belonged to another woman. He was already married and was never going to be truly mine, and while I worried I was never going to find the right guy, I eventually did — and now he’s married to me. We learn when we’re young that we shouldn’t steal things that don’t belong to us. He was someone else’s husband and not mine to be involved with.If his wife is “crazy”, “possessive”, or “controlling”, it may be because he has a pattern of behaving improperly with female friends and co-workers.Or maybe he has other issues that are easy to hide from a mistress, but that would destroy your relationship, too, if your lives were truly intertwined.
It did come pay me a visit, and although it probably wasn’t as bad as I deserved, it hurt a lot. When we let men cheat, we ruin the bonds of sisterhood that should exist among women.This article was originally published at Digital Romance. You can now enjoy all of this AND MORE through the Club.Find out more about the Club and exclusive benefits here!Questions to Ask Yourself First Don’t go blindly into a relationship with a married man.Before you start something with them, you have to ask yourself a few questions to make sure it’s something you really want to do. Are you just lonely with your life and you’re looking for some fun and a married guy is the only person there?