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The really hard thing is knowing where you fit in the hierarchy of things. I wouldn't trade the last fifteen years of my time with her daughters for anything.I see a lot of comments in this thread saying no way, she can't put me first, etc etc.... Those kids are my first priority too, and their mother and I worked together to ensure that it stayed that way for both of us. They've all three grown up to be pretty remarkable young women, which is at least partly my doing..their mother is an AWESOME woman.At 30, it's pretty damn hard to date people with a firm no prior marriages or kids.That pretty much would eliminate over half my dating pool. My only problem was that, with a 2 year-old son, she really couldn't see me for more than a couple hours a week, and that really wasn't enough for me. I understood that her son needs to come first, and she understood that the relationship didn't really leave much room for me.
It can be incredibly rewarding, but it can also rip your heart out and fire it into the sun. Just because me and my SO are splitting up, doesn't mean my child has to lose someone that was in her life a lot.Provided that my ex is mentally stable, I would still allow my kids to have a relationship with them. She brought with her 3 of the most beautiful little girls that I had the privilege of being a step-dad to.I didn't have kids of my own, but I always wanted them.I'm 35 so this seriously limits the dating pool, but I'd rather be alone now than lower my expectations. If I know them well enough and we get along, then I would go for it.Otherwise, proceed with caution and know what you're getting into.