He makes you feel good because, hey, this guy really likes you!And yet…he really hasn’t bothered to find anything out about your personality or history.I know a woman who did this from a dating app for a man who said he was named Stefano, Italian, living in California.The search revealed that he was Is online dating safe? I’m not saying you have to go all stalker on the guy, but Google his name and see what comes up.As sexy as a man who cooks is…you don’t need to accept this invitation for the first time you meet someone. Keep an eye out for any red flags you might otherwise miss if you focus on his handsome photos: Meeting for coffee is a great first date, and should only last an hour or two.If you’re uncomfortable or don’t like the guy, you can make an excuse to leave.I’m not saying a good man can’t fall for you quickly, but just go slowly until you meet him and get to know him.I know a woman who talked to a man who, in the first five texts, told her that both his parents had died when he was little. After a few excuses, realize there’s something more going on.
I can’t really explain why talking on the phone can give you reassurance that he’s not a creep…but it’s true.And I guess if he sounds like a complete weirdo…you can then block him and not worry about it. And if he tries to bully you into doing it, realize that this guy does have good intentions! The jury’s still out, but if you take precautions like telling a friend where you’re meeting this guy, you pretty much eliminate most of the risk.Another of my female coaching clients moved from the dating app to a phone call, and the man sounded like he’d drunk 10 cups of coffee (or was on speed). Let one or more friends know where you’ll be, and at what time.On Google.com, click the camera icon in the search bar and upload the photo from his profile.If he’s used that photo anywhere else, it will appear in search results.